Does Every Tough Conversation Feel Like a Battle?

Discover the conflict pattern you bring into tense moments — and how to shift into real teamwork.

Created by Respected & Connected™ — practical tools for couples who want real connection and real collaboration.

You shouldn’t have to brace yourself for honest conversations.

But when tension hits, most couples slip into a familiar dance:

  • One escalates, one withdraws

  • One over-functions, one freezes

  • One pushes for clarity, one shuts down

  • One tracks everything, the other misses the signals

None of this means your relationship is broken.
It means each of you is bringing your own conflict pattern into the moment — and together, those patterns reinforce each other.

Once you can see your pattern clearly, you can change how you show up… which changes the entire dynamic.

Discover Your Conflict Pattern

Every person brings a conflict pattern into their most stressful moments.

Your partner has one.

You have one.

And together they create the dance you keep getting stuck in.

Here are the four most common patterns:

The repeater

Leads with the problem, hoping to be heard — but often triggers defensiveness instead.

The Equalizer

A responsible partner who sees what needs to be done — and gets frustrated carrying more than their share.

The accelerator

Moves quickly toward resolution because tension feels urgent and uncomfortable.

The avoider

Pulls back to “keep the peace,” even when it creates more distance.

Your Quiz Result Reveals...

  • The conflict pattern you default to

  • Why it shows up

  • How to shift your part of the dynamic so your relationship can move from tension to teamwork

Ready to understand what's actually getting in the way?

Discover your conflict pattern and learn the next step to shift into real teamwork.

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